Transitions
Transitions
Sometimes in life we face major transitions. It can come in the form of a relocation, a marriage or an addition to the family. All these transitions are guaranteed to come with one thing: stress. The stress can be either good, bad or a combination of both. There have to be adjustments to the way we are "used" to doing things. We have to consider new options, whether we want to or not.
A fine example is the transition I recently underwent. I crossed an ocean to return to a homeland I remembered with a combination of anticipation and idealness. Both feelings were proven correct upon arrival, but to an extent I couldn't have dreamed of. The amenities were all there: book stores of multiple levels, coffee houses open all night long and a connection speed that was faster then my wildest dreams! There was, however, the anticipation as well. I was in a new work area where I knew nothing about the job at hand or what others expected of me. I didn't know my way around, and ended up going to stores that had closed hours before because it was Sunday!
Then, of course, the bills. If that isn't part of transition and stress I don't know what is. Deposits, down payments and first and last payments! Credit card offers from companies I didn't even know existed. The need for basic household goods and even plain and simple food! It all added up faster than the plane ride, and my oh my, paying it all off will not be as quick. The decisions started to be whether or not I could wait three months to receive my possessions, or whether being away from it meant that I was allowed to spoil myself "just this once". Just this once is never just once by the way!
To complicate matters I have become quite the independent person. This is a good thing, right? Well, I think it depends on the degree of independence, or so I have learned. For me, independence and stubbornness go hand in hand. I would refuse to admit that I was stressed, and so I withdrew into myself. Not the smart thing to do methinks. Fortunately for me there were people that helped me just by being there and listening to me vent, as well as offering their opinions and advice. Eventually I caught on that independence is one thing, lidding emotions quite another. I knew that friends and family can help in any situation, but I found out that sometimes, such as in a period of transition, they are essential.
While I am not yet through this transition, as I will be paying it off for months to come, I am over the rockiest part. I have found a place to live, a vehicle to drive and have the essentials necessary for my standard of living. I have friends and family that are there to support me through the adjustment phase. When it comes down to it, this is a major transition for me...but at least I am having the opportunity to experience it.
Enigma
07/15/01
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